by dmac » Tue Jan 17, 2017 11:36 pm
My dad was an awful drunk. Thankfully, he quit drinking when he quit the Air Force. He was an F-4 phantom pilot in Nam, Laos, Cambodia, Thailand, Cuba, Philippines, and other secret wars. He used to send home tapes of his missions. Only sent home the PG ones, not those where he was awarded medals for bravery and valor. He never talked about it. But I found it in the bottom drawer in a locked cabinet in the garage. He said it was a gun cabinet as he knew I despised weaponry and, therefore, would have no interest. That doesn't stop a curious kid! It was filled by his military suits and massive awards. He was awarded things that blew my head straight off. I knew the significance of some, just a few were in my vocabulary.
I hate the fucker on one hand, yet so admire him for doing what he believed in and not quitting just because the new management were Nixonite warmongerers. He believed in change from within, but not from a self-help book. Real Deal stuff. Even then I realized he was a dupe, a killer in a missile who believed in a fucked, corrupt scheme named America. Nam was a douche before Kennedy signed on! To play fair, my dad signed on during Eisenhower's administration, prior to Dwight making it blatantly clear he did NOT want his veep, Nixon, to win the Presidency.
Dad kept just a touch of his past, yet put it under lock and key and lied about it. You do, most all do. It's not specific to serial killer trophyism. Most of us do it. When you hide something, an essence, of a person you just murdered, it's a different level of keepsaking from a quite perverse skill set.
Dad never talked about Nam. No helmets or other gook trophies sent from Saigon. He didn't enjoy it. He grieved over much of his military work, despised the arms build-up as the circle-jerk it is. We briefly spoke of his past during the first Bush (1) invasion of Iraq. Desert Storm. I said, "Let's hope the dumb motherfuckers at the top don't fuck this one up, too". He said, quite softly and simply, "Amen." Waxing profound, I was too thick to understand his turmoil came from the far deep: a dialogue with the same useless Death he'd encountered for decades prior to my birth.
Booze is a massively abused tool the military imports and imparts. Drink or die, similar to sink or swim without a life jacket or viable exit. Fuck the USAF for their absolute and direct involvement in murdering their troops and their families!
My mom was a bitch. She hated me. She only wanted to fuck-spew a boy from her cunt to stop sex. "First son, I'm done!" was my parents' unmentionable motto. I was the 'accident', and she made certain I knew it from her each abuse for all wrongs done by anyone but me. I was the cause of all pain and harm in the household, despite not being remotely involved. She once apologized for beating me over the head with my brother's boots, which he'd left out in the rain. It was only because my sisters insisted she stop hurting me and apologize.
Once ain't enough, and she did it under duress. Fuck you, mom. Fuck her! The bitch be dead, go for it if so inclined.
My parents were assholes.
My dad would come home drunk and shatter our sleep. Directly shouting: "GET UP!! WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU DO?!" we had to do cleaning drills at three in the morning then go to school at seven. Fuck You, dad! Dead-tired, we'd walk to school on Saturdays thinking it was any other school day.
Moronic shit. He and my mom had so many scripted arguments... same fucking vertical-dialogue nearly every time. Scripted, drunken assholes saying the exact same shit over and over. Get off the pot, you fuckknobs. Boorish "Bang! ZOOM!!" delivery without Gleason's imbued love, and zero laughter from the abused and captive audience of four children.
Short Answer: I believe Justin and even Casey would recall the standard fights, verbatim. It's like starting a chorus of Hey Jude- just get them started, they remember all the words yet mumble at the tough bits.
We used to hear these standard tirades and put ourselves back to sleep with white noise from the radio. When they varied from the script, we got worried. Us boys and girls (in Brady Bunch rooms) would ask who we'd rather stay with if they parted. We hated both options. Four pre-teens forced to choose the lesser of evils, like it was a Trump/Hitler finish. I chose suicide. I'd rather have died than live with either, tearing us kids apart. My siblings were both my strength and my bane. I had nowhere to feel 'safe'.
Do I seem to have PTSD? Yes, enough to know Marty and Dee and Tony are fucking lying about military PTSD. The only action they saw was from deeply soul-damaging whorehouses. Comfort Women is not a Japanese-exclusive lie-phrase. America does it every fucking day. Never pardon my french. These ass fuckers created more PTSD by raping innocent kids time and again. Prove it? No. Likely? Fuck the motherfucking fuck of the whole fucking day the motherfucking fuck off!
We all endure shit as a daily process of life. We make thousands of quite consequential decisions from our gut knowledge, our own Truth. Most every reaction we make is calculated by our inner brain. I made my Truth as a kid and stick to it: I choose not to repeat ugly patterns but to replace them with loving, caring. I choose not to waste sleep thinking about what I've been through, but to find the good from it and build on it. That's why this is the only time you'll see me pitching a bitch at my folks.
We went camping a lot. A LOT. That's how I first saw Keddie, when I was about 3 or 4. Despite my parents, I still love camping and turned my kids onto it.
I choose to love and understand children. I choose to remember how unfair I saw life as a child, not bury my hurts and frustrations. I choose to embrace kids and puppies and flowers and a garden. I choose to openly yet guardedly weep in public from both hurt and joy. I choose to make my life better by helping raise the quality of others lives.
I choose a wholesome community where we're on a first-name basis and all kids are safe.
I may seem like a throw-back to Leave It to Beaver, but Johnny was born a few months after me, and I have his rotten mouth for abusive words. He earned those cuss-word scars, just as I did.
Johnny was a kid of 15, not a punk or a killer. Not even a doper. He earned those battle scars just by being born to assholes. His POV is not ours, but he went upstairs to protect his family. THAT IS SO FUCKING TRUE. So did Dana! That was their instinctive, whole gut, TRUE reaction. Defending family and Dana knowing he had to be family at that moment. By all standards, Johnny and Dana were and ARE absolute heroes.
Marty, Loon, Bo, Dee, Tony, Mike, these assholes chose to murder a family. That was and is their collective gut-instinct. 35 years of lies from the same killers. FUCK THEM.
HANG THE LOT.
Two deep, three wide.
"Back off, man. I'm a scientist."
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